I will not settle

I interrupt this work day to bring you this message for which I feel very strongly.

I will not settle on an eternal companion.

I'm mostly writing this in Internet land so that my brain and heart can feel at peace with my decisions.

Just because someone is a nice guy, and I have fun with him, does not mean an eternal companion he must become. If a man has food on his shirt on our third date (and we did not eat together)...and spends much of his time talking about the attractiveness scale from 1-10 and how he feels bad for nice people who are a 3 on the scale and will never find a mate because of their placement on the scale, I do not need to feel guilty about my lack of enthusiasm for a 4th date.

If a man can't connect with me, even on a basic level of friendship...if I have to convince myself that I enjoy spending time with him...and he doesn't even measure up to my experiences with my platonic friendships...I do not need to feel guilty, nor do I need to feel like I am too picky. Yes, I'm almost 31. But I am not single of my own choosing. I will not settle for something less than I deserve. And I deserve connection. I deserve respect. I deserve to feel mentally, emotionally and physically safe.

Message over. Back to work I go.